When babies are born, it is a new chapter in your life, embarking on something you have never done before. Learning how to be a parent as you go along, babies do not come with an owners manual or a guide book to each milestone.

When pregnant, the parent has ideas and dreams of how they wish to be, what life will look like when that very longed-for baby arrives. However the birthing is both exhausting and exhilarating, and you become sleep deprived, and with added domestic duties it can sometimes fail to live up to the expectation.

When the baby is born there is celebration, joy and noise! Lots of visitors and excitement during the first week. Then everyone is gone and there is just you and the baby, a quiet home and a responsibility to get it done right.

Sometimes parents look at their baby in wonder and a combination of fear, excitement and love to make everything as perfect as possible.

Babies will eat and sleep on their own schedule. You cannot do much about that, except get into a routine that works for you. Your body is healing and dad is waiting to help, and everyone is tired.

Then there's the pressure to breast feed or not, cloth nappies or disposable, along with society pressures on how to raise your baby and interference from well meaning people.

There is so much conflicting advice for parents on what to do and not to do, when in reality the only standards you need to live up to are your own. As long as your baby is fed, bathed, loved you're doing a great job.