The first relationship we have that will rule our lives forever, is the one with our parents. Good or bad it will reflect on how we relate to all areas of our lives in the future.
It is where your confidence, worth and moral compass is formed and learned.
If one or either of the parents has an addiction, it will reflect on the relationship between parent and child and will impact how the young person relates to addiction and relationships in the future.
If one or either of the parents suffers mental issues or depression, if there is a cycle of domestic violence or welfare mentality, this will affect the future of the child.
The child then goes on to educational, sporting and community groups, where the rules at home and here will also directly wire the child’s future. What is acceptable in mood, physical actions and emotion.
Later in the child’s life they will choose and then date a person, mimicking the relationship they had with their parents - good or bad, and continue in this cycle until there is a de-hypnotising, or break in the mind frame, or worse case scenario, a climactic emotional event like suicide, mental breakdown, near death or death. As well as choosing and living their lives (whether it is food health financial and friendships) also reflects what was the “norm” from childhood.
Bill Gate's speech to high school, an excerpt from the book “Dumbing Down our Kids” by educator Charles Sykes, was a warning way back then. It is a list of eleven things you did not learn in school and directed at high school and college grads.